It has helped people experience relief from phobias, depression, PTSD and even physical conditions. It can be used as a tool to help with therapy or as a way of clearing out emotional baggage that is preventing you from being your best and functioning at 100%.
I turned to EFT because, well... this blog has an archive. Just read through March 2011 and I'm pretty sure you'll be able to see that 2011 hasn't been the easiest year. I've been emotionally dicked around by someone who I gave far too much of myself to with very little reciprocation. EFT seemed a little too crystals and nag champa and wearing crinkly flowy skirts to coven meetings for me. (Not that there's anything wrong with those things, just because I'm an asshole doesn't mean that people don't find a ton of fulfillment and meaning at The Brass Unicorn. I'm probably jealous.)
EFT also seemed easy, cheaper than a shrink and healthier than a drink.
So I watched a buncha YouTube videos on it, downloaded some free material, bought The EFT Manual for my Kindle and taped up the diagram of tapping points on my mirror, along with the "Even though________________, I accept and forgive myself." phrase and started in.
My first session I went for a long time. I didn't really realize that you only really need to tap for a few minutes on whatever you're working on. Yeah, this shit works wonders in MINUTES. I tapped furiously, I focused on the hurt, the anger, the bewilderment, shame, sadness, isolation, confusion and everything else that came along with my relationship with this person, picturing the incidents that affected me the worst- the time I hit my head on the kitchen sink, the failed attempts for validation of my feelings, the drunken I Love You's and sober I don't and I can't and I won'ts. All of the goddamned Ryan Adams.
I was actually physically ill afterward, and kinda bruised.
Don't do that. Well, physically ill is okay- you're tapping on acupressure points, one of which is connected to the tummy so obviously along with expelling a bunch of shit from your emo-stream-o, you'll be likely to feel a bit off. But you don't have to tap til it hurts. Just tap.
The results were immediate. What had been a nagging heartache that I'd been carrying with me was gone. I felt light. I could drive by his neighborhood on my way to the grocery store and not feel the urge to turn down his street. I could listen to Pavement and watch my favorite TV shows that I happened to watch with him without feeling sick or angry.
I haven't had one angry rant about him in almost a month. Before I'd complain to anything that would listen, alive or inanimate.
In the meanwhile my self esteem has been repairing. People are noticing I have a spring in my step- my ex husband/father of my children/best friend even noticed it in my voice. I probably look pretty pleased with myself all the time.
So this is what it felt like to be a true-blue optimist before I invited in the pessimist. I'd almost forgotten in one year of bullshit the happy way I'd felt my entire life leading up to it.
I've been tapping on other issues as well and noticing major results in all kinds of fun ways- skating with more confidence and aggression, less complaining, more smiling, feeling really contented, and really truly believing that I won't ever get into a manipulative, one sided and completely unhealthy relationship ever again.
I knew it was working when I saw my reflection in a mirror and without thinking about it I blurted out "I am way too good for _______."
So I'm blogging this, and getting fairly personal about it, in order to maybe help you find some peace of mind. EFT works because it tackles the things medicine can't touch- the emotional cause of problems. It's not like it erases it- I still think of he-who-shall-not-be-named here and there but it's completely absent of the emotional charge that it was rife with before. Robbed of that heavy emotional burden the memories are just echoes of a past hurt that can't touch me anymore.
I'm still not sure that I'd be successful in a relationship yet, but I'm confident that I'm headed down the right path and when things are triggered I now have the tools to fight them off for good. I definitely know I'm on the mend.
I made a video. It's a little long and I apologize but I talk a bit more about EFT, give a few other examples of how it's helping and do a demo that's probably not very helpful. I also am listing links to resources so you can get started if you'd like to try it. I'd be glad to answer any questions or help out if needed!
I really LAVA this easy-peasy way of becoming the best I have ever been.
http://galadarling.com/article/eft
http://www.emofree.com/
http://www.amazon.com/EFT-Manual-Emotional-Freedom-Techniques/dp/1604150300
http://www.amazon.com/EFT-Sports-Performance-Gary-Craig/dp/1604150521/ref=sr_1_7?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1321350619&sr=1-7
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